York County, PA Divorce Mediation Attorney

Divorce & Family Law Mediation in York and Lancaster County, PA


If you and your spouse are divorcing, a skilled Pennsylvania divorce mediation attorney at Ilkhanoff & Silverstein can provide you with top-notch mediation assistance. Executing agreements with your spouse prior to your divorce hearing can save you considerable time and money. Even when a divorce is amicable, mediation is often required to resolve any last-minute conflicts or disagreements. Ilkhanoff & Silverstein is a team of proven negotiators that will work to achieve the best possible settlement for both you and your spouse. Contact Ilkhanoff & Silverstein for a consultation to discuss how we can help you through the mediation process.

Why Hire a Mediation Attorney from Ilkhanoff & Silverstein?

Our attorneys are former directors of the family law section of the York County Bar Association. We are committed to providing professional and ethical legal services to our clients. We understand the emotional trauma of a divorce and family law matters, and will provide the mediation assistance needed to resolve your divorce-related issues.

‘THE GOOD DIVORCE’ and how to achieve it…

Our mission is to guide you toward a different pathway forward in your life.

At Ilkhanoff & Silverstein, we strive to do what is best for our clients and their families. Our mission is to deviate from the typical struggle and strife of litigation, courts, and highly emotional exchanges that come with contested divorces. We want to show you a better way…. The better divorce through mediation. A true path forward and not backward.

We understand that divorce is not an easy decision, but when individuals can lay down their emotional weapons, set aside their accusations & resentments, let the dust settle, and focus on moving forward in an amicable way, we believe everyone benefits emotionally and financially.

We do this by being empathetic, supportive, and helping both parties to feel comfortable in our care, clearly expressing their needs and goals in a friendly manner with the goal of a swift and amicable method to resolve their family law issues of divorce and custody.

Lancaster, Pennsylvania Divorce Mediation

When a couple divorces, there are often many issues that will need to be resolved, including:

  • How assets will be divided
  • Whether or not spousal support will be paid
  • Who will be the primary custodian of any minor children
  • How much child support will be paid
  • The visitation schedule of the non-custodial parent

During divorce mediation, we can review your finances and collect additional data to help facilitate the formation of agreements in any needed areas. Once the agreements have been worked out, we will prepare and submit the documents that will be needed by the court.

Is Mediation Right for You?

Depending on the circumstances of your divorce, mediation may very well be the best route to go about it. If you think you and your spouse meet the following criteria, mediation may be the best option:

  • You are civil with one another
  • You believe you are capable of compromise
  • You are both interested in making your own decisions
  • You both share a common goal of reaching an amicable settlement
  • You both want to avoid having to take your divorce to court
  • You both want to save time (mediation is often significantly less drawn-out than litigated divorces)
  • You are both willing to engage in a good-faith negotiation
  • You are both mentally capable of undergoing mediation

What We Can Accomplish

Through mediation, the goal is to accomplish the following, among other things:

  • Resolve all disputed divorce-related issues that a judge would otherwise decide
  • Give you more power and more of a say over your future and that of your children
  • Save you time and money (as opposed to a litigated divorce)
  • Protect your privacy, unlike litigation, which will become a part of the public record
  • Reduce the level of stress often associated with divorce
  • Help you reach a dissolution of your marriage in a civil, respectful way to reduce feelings of bitterness, hopefully enabling you to better co-parent and get along with one another

If mediation sounds right for you, please don’t hesitate to contact a mediation attorney from Ilkhanoff & Silverstein for assistance.

Lancaster Child Custody Mediation

When parents are forced to address the matter of child custody as they get divorced, one of the ways that they choose to do so is through child custody mediation. A mediator can help you make custody decisions that protect the best interests of your child.

At Ilkhanoff & Silverstein, we are proud to help clients through the mediation process. Child custody mediation helps parents forge new, cooperative relationships that can be invaluable for future parenting.

In addition, modeling healthy, constructive dispute resolution is a good lesson for the children. Don’t let a judge decide such an important, impactful decision. Contact Ilkhanoff & Silverstein today for quality representation when it matters most.

An Outline of the Mediation Process

A brief outline of how divorce mediation typically moves along is as follows:

Pre-Mediation Calls

Before we begin mediating your case, we will conduct a pre-mediation call. In the call, we will discuss the contested issues at hand, your goals for your divorce, and briefly outline how the process may go, as well as answer any questions you may have about the process.

During Mediation

During your mediation session, we will first establish ground rules for the discussion, listen to you and your spouse’s desires, and help facilitate a productive conversation to reach a compromise. The overall goal is to reach an agreement at the end of your session.


When the parties agree on a solution, they will reconvene with the mediator for the final step: closure. The mediator will assist the parties in documenting the key points of the settlement, which will be signed by both parties. This agreement is legally binding.

The Five Key Traits of Mediated Divorce

Many have turned to mediation because of the benefits it provides to successful participants. The five key traits of a successfully-mediated divorce are:

  1. Confidential: The process of mediation is confidential unless agreed to. This allows for an open discussion about important factors.
  2. Voluntary: When people choose this process, they are willing participants who will more often work towards an amicable resolution.
  3. Neutral: A mediator takes no sides. The goal is to facilitate constructive negotiations that benefit both parties.
  4. Efficiency: One of the most lauded benefits of mediation is the time and money saved.
  5. Collaborative: Working together for a mutually-beneficial conclusion is in everyone’s best interests, especially positive for parents who need to forge a new parenting relationship.

Contact a York & Lancaster County Mediation Attorney Today

When the future of a family is at stake, it is important to have an attorney who is on your side and is dedicated to fighting on your behalf. Ilkhanoff & Silverstein understands how challenging this time can be for the entire family and is committed to guiding you through the mediation process to help achieve the desired outcome. Contact a mediation attorney from our firm today.

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